Welcome to SAA in the North Texas area. From north in Wichita Falls, east in Texarkana, southeast in Tyler, southwest in Waco, and west in Lubbock, as well as all across the Metroplex, our members are ready to help.

We are glad you have found us. We want to help.

By making the decision to search for a solution to a problem you may not even understand you have taken an important step on your behalf. In this website you will find a way to get in touch with other sex addicts who can and want to help. We have found a solution that works for us.

Right now you probably have lots of questions. You may not be sure if you are a sex addict. You may have never heard of the Twelve Steps of SAA. Or you may be absolutely certain you belong here. The reason most people seek out SAA is that some aspect of their sexual behavior has become a problem or they think it may lead to a problem. These questions or concerns are beneficial to you, for they have brought you here, and moved you beyond a point of trying to handle this all on your own. We would like to talk with you in an effort to help you make sense of it all.  We appreciate the courage it took to get here.

For most of us – despite our most heroic efforts, we were unable to control how much time we spent, how much money we spent, where we went, what we did, who we did things with, once we started. Usually it was some external consequences that interrupted the out of control behavior that allowed us to stop. Often times we convinced ourselves that we in fact had made the decision to stop. Our experience shows this was rarely the case.

Then when we turned away from behaviors out of fear of more pain and suffering, with a solemn promise to never do them again, the obsessive thoughts always drove us back to the very things that were ruining our lives. The process continued over and over and over and got progressively worse regardless of how much time we were able to abstain between binges on our own power. We interpreted this lack of control as proof that we were bad, morally flawed or defective people. We desperately sought the elusive feeling we loved that acting out once provided. Men and women act out sexually essentially because they like the effect produced. That sense of ease and comfort that comes at once when we engaged in a few selfish sexual actions. Often times the feeling comes on strong as a result of just the anticipation or thoughts of doing certain things. We began to easily justifying our behaviors. We found ourselves unable to predict when our next binge might be. It could come on a bad day just as easily as it could occur on a day without any trouble on the horizon. Our compulsions became our worst enemies and yet our most familiar sources of comfort. In order to get through the day we had to act out, but in the next breath would admit that these behaviors were destroying our lives and separating us from all the things we truly cared about. This is the hopeless feature of sexual addiction. This utter inability to leave it alone no matter how desperate the desire or wish to do so.

A major part of our lives was secret. We hid in the darkness of our shame. Much of the power of sexually compulsive behavior is found in the secrecy. Another reason to congratulate you! By coming to this website you have begun to break the bonds of secrecy, and to step into honesty which is a foundation stone of recovery.

Many people who suffer from the disease of sexual addiction refuse to admit the reality of their addiction. The nature of addiction is that it tells us that it does not exist and denies the harm the addictive behavior does to others and ourselves. We came to SAA because we could no longer deny the pain that our sexual behavior had caused in our lives. Many of us experienced such dramatic consequences as divorce, disease, jail, or financial ruin before seeing that our lives had become unmanageable. Others among us were confronted about certain behavior by family, friends, or counselors, and were given a choice to seek help, or face yet another loss in our lives. When we learned of SAA, we began to hope again that our lives could be restored and that we wouldn’t have to suffer any longer from this progressive disease called sex addiction.

We began to attend SAA meetings. Here we heard stories similar to ours, and we heard how others in SAA were abstaining from compulsive behaviors. Not only did we learn that these individuals were sober sex addicts but that they had actually found a way of living which was far better than the way they used to live. Clearly they had found a solution. It begged the question, “What do I have to do to get well like these people I’m seeing in SAA?” We can show you what we did.

From these men and women we learned about the disease of sex addiction and the practical program of action called the Twelve Steps used to recover. We got a sponsor who could guide us through all Twelve Steps. As we began to apply them in our lives and look for others to help; we discovered that we too could abstain from our compulsive behaviors as a result of the actions we took in the program of SAA. The Steps, coupled with the help of our fellow sex addicts in the fellowship of SAA, resulted in a life that began to take on new meaning.

Our common problem brought us into the meeting rooms of SAA. More importantly our common solution keeps us coming back. As we learn to live, one day at a time, we are developing a new outlook on life, a stronger sense of personal integrity, and an ability to truly enjoy our lives. Our hope is that you too will receive these benefits and join us.

We suggest you talk with a sober sex addict who has found a solution to help you decide if this program is for you. These sober members can be found in any of our 60 weekly meetings around the DFW Metroplex. See the “Find a meeting” page for meetings available in the DFW area. If you want to talk to a member today please call our help line at 469-251-0423 and we can help get you connected. You are not alone!